Will you allow yourself to continuously stretch?
The Rubber Band:
Imagine you hold one end of a rubber band in one hand while stretching the opposite end with your other hand. The more you stretch the rubber band, the more it wants you to let go so it can come back to its original position. In just wants to return to its place of comfort.
Yet if we continue stretching it, that rubber band will eventually grow into a new size. When we let go of it now, it may come back some, but not the entire distance. In essence, it has developed a new dimension.
Now imagine that you dip this original rubber band into hot wax and remove it quickly. You then allow the wax to dry. At this point, if you repeat the stretching exercise you'll notice that the wax caked around it cracks and crumbles, as you extend the rubber band. Then it falls off.
The same dynamic occurs with humans. We don't want to get stretched, because it will involve letting go of some layers. We are comfortable within those layers, and they may even seem to be protecting us. Yet, in fact, they are getting in the way of the new, evolving being who we already are on the inside. They are an impediment to our growth.
Also like that rubber band, we must temporarily experience being uncomfortable when we stretch and grow. In the process of becoming the butterfly we were metaphorically meant to be, we are outgrowing a cocoon.
The butterfly doesn't snip off its wings and re-enter the cocoon. It knows of no such thing. But we, as human beings, have a tendency to snip our own new-grown wings so we can retreat to the cocoon that represents our old zone of comfort. Fortunately for those of us who are dedicated to metamorphosing into our Highest Selves, the zone of comfort is seldom the space of fulfillment. Thank goodness that aspiring human butterflies have the ability to allow growth even though it often comes with the pain of birthing our new evolved selves.
The next time you are feeling stretched and uncomfortable, pat yourself on the back and say "Good for me. I must be growing!" In fact, if you are not stretching, growing, and evolving, then you are most likely plateauing or even going on reverse.
It is absolutely crucial that you not judge, criticize, and compare yourself to others while you are being stretched. To do so will only make you feel stuck in the transition. You will focus on the pain of stretching, and want to go back to your old cocoon. Instead, treat yourself as affectionately as you would a child who is learning to ride a bicycle without training wheels.
Give yourself extra nurturing. Drink a cup of hot tea, go for a walk, allow a few deep breaths, release tear while grieving past or present pain, and process upward toward gratitude for what is and your inner ability to allow ease in the midst of discomfort.
The Training Wheels:
As we stretch, let’s embrace the training wheels with joy!
Training wheels have allowed children to develop a sense of equilibrium and to know how the bicycle is ultimately going to feel without the training wheels.
And once a child learns to ride without training wheels, they will experience more ease and speed while learning that they can now flow around obstacles more gracefully...and in that, they'll find a new sense of self-confidence...
Once you feel a sense of equilibrium, take off the training wheels with courage as remaining in the "training wheel zone" may block you from reaching a new level of creation.
And then, there is the falling...Yes, when they fall and get a boo boo, they’ll come to Mom for a kiss and then continue on riding… Ask your community of female visionaries to kiss your boo boo as you rise back up and continue to ride...
Continue to ride...and stretch my love, stretch… On the other side of stretching, is blossoming!
The Blossoming Rose:
Imagine that you are a gardener who tends a rose bush. You notice new green buds that appear, but as the days go by they remain closed as if they are afraid of opening up. Many of us resist the process of changing, evolving, and blossoming...
Alongside the closed buds, there is another new bud...One that is in the beginning stages of her decision...she asks:
Do I want to blossom,
Or do I want to stay a bud?
If I stay a bud,
I’ll be comfortable
With my petals closed
And my core warm.
If I blossom,
I’ll be exposed to hurricanes,
And unpredictable storms.
I choose to blossom
Knowing one day my aroma will emanate all around!
I choose to blossom
Knowing my seeds of willingness will spread, take root in the ground!
I choose to blossom
Knowing that one day my petals will be all over...
Not just my shriveled bud in a corner somewhere alone...
Celebrating all those who allow themselves to stretch into new empowering realities,