Hello BraveHeart Women,
Recently, I read a chalkboard sign outside a coffee shop that said, “But first, coffee.”
I would like to introduce a new mantra, “But first, oxytocin.”
This morning I awakened at 6am to begin the day with my morning weekday ritual. I took a sweet breath in bed and stretched.
I put on my workout attire – slipping on my leggings and sports bra and tank that hugged my body and felt soft on my skin. I slowly put on my socks and tied my laces before stepping outside to feel the crisp morning. I pulled on my sweatshirt and began walking down the road towards the health club in silence.
Hahhh…A soft oxytocin breath released as I walked step by step to the health club. I listened to the birds that where chirping and the sound of my inner voice.
I arrived at the health club and had a great workout. Afterward, I took my time in the steam room, shower, and finally I sat down at a mirror and layer by layer I blow dried my hair.
Hahhh…I smiled and took an oxytocin breath as I felt the warm heat on my body and hair. What pleasure! I then softly smoothed moisturizer on my face and then a light foundation. I brushed on my eye shadow first with the cream base and then the shadows layer by layer – enjoying the artistry of painting. I then put on a light layer of mascara and some pink feminine gloss and popped my lips together.
After the pop, I smiled and a natural oxytocin breath released as I surrendered in this calm, safe, and joyful space. Hahhh…
As I got dressed for work I once again put on each clothing item slowly and with ease while taking sensual notes of the quality of the fabric as it graced my skin. I felt gratitude in my heart and a readiness to begin a new day. Hahhh…another sweat breath and a day with possibilities ahead.
This is the space that I love to begin my day now.
It wasn’t always this way for me though. I was the star student of perpetual rush and late or nearly late behavior. I was, as I understand it now, hooked on adrenaline. I thought the only way to ‘get going’ and ‘face the world’ was to be pushed for time and on a tight deadline.
I lived by the mantra, “But first, coffee.”
I used to wake up to immediately turn on my French Press. I completely underestimated time and jumped into a shower, threw on clothes, and struggled to get my belt through all 5 loops. I used to take a granola bar and a French press coffee on the go.
Admittedly, I used to apply make-up in the car at stop lights and sip on my coffee. My breathing was short and constricted. Just writing this now, in fact, makes my breath shorter and constricted!
I would ‘gun it’ at the green and perpetually check the clock to see that I would arrive at an appointment right at scheduled time or two minutes early to slide into a parking spot. This behavior, I thought, was waking me up to be strong enough to race, fight, compete, and beat any challenge or anyone that challenged me.
Now, I understand, it was the adrenaline that hooked me every time to be in a frenzied rush to get anywhere and everywhere. I was not “too busy” as I excused myself and it was not “the LA traffic.” It was my choices both consciously and unconsciously to keep on riding the adrenaline train.
Hahhhh…lets release that energy with an oxytocin breath.
I am grateful I have shifted this behavior and come to love my spaced, slower, and sensual mornings in my feminine where I naturally breathe out sweet oxytocin breaths and feel connected to my body, taking great care of myself and feeling beautiful from the inside out.
I now live more fully by the mantra, "But first, Oxytocin." I love having time in silence to walk, exercise, and then play dress-up as I do my hair, put on my make-up, and slip on my soft clothing.
Hahhh…how sweet it is to live as a BraveHeart Woman.