Trust is an energy we all seek, a sense of safety our species needs, and a dynamic that often confuses the mind and disappoints our hearts.
We have learned to depend less on our sense of inner trust and more on the need to trust others. Our learned behavior around trust has one insatiable question:
Can I trust you?
Children ask their parents this question (non-verbally) in the first few days of life, potential mates ask it though their body language, spouses ask this question -subliminally- of each other even years past their wedding vows, siblings express trust for one another in a variety of ways, and friends and colleagues create bonds around the need for trust only to find that all such bonds can be broken.
The species mindset around trust as expressed above may have the ability to create a finite level of safety between parent and offspring, siblings, and mates-although many of us see dysfunctions even in those trust dynamics-yet, when it comes to broader relationships with other souls such as friends, colleagues, collaborators, teammates, and the rest of our human family, it’s best to evolve from our species definition of trust to a soul kind of trust!
We can begin to do that by first acknowledging how incapable the distorted trust patterns are when it comes to our humanity as a whole... They are rigidly ‘set’ in their ways and have become our survival mindset’s definition of trust (rooted in the reptilian brain).
In our broader relationships (not direct blood related) we must release the need for this survival based illusion of trust and create new imprints and synapses around a more thriving kind of trust!
Let us begin to unhook others from our distorted trust attachments and by doing so free ourselves from the existing and obsolete caveman/cavewoman mindset...Until now, the illusion of this survival based trust has been worth the millions of neurons and the deep need to gain a false sense of safety… This is no longer an effective pathway for those of us who value our potential.
And just like all valuable work, this will be a journey as our mindset around trust has been developed over tens of thousands of years, and each person's synapses have been in development since birth catering to the existing mindset. So without awareness and new synapse creation, we are doomed to follow the default.
Going forward, we can choose a different pathway! We can move off the survival highway and instead of paying our tolls to the obsolete and the distorted, we can begin to invest in the thrive highway. To start with, we can learn to engage our frontal cortex neurons and create new synapses and more and more myelin for ease of conductivity around Soul Trust; a thriving kind of trust that stems in the frontal cortex and connects us to our potential within and beyond!
Speaking of ‘beyond’, some of us may no longer be putting as much trust in others as we put in the divinity beyond us. But even in our relationship with the Divine, we often ask for set survival parameters instead of surrender to the process. And for those few who actually trust the Divine without attachment, we rarely allow ourselves to rise up into a level of inner trust that meets the Divine collaboratively. And if so, even though we may be basking in a slightly higher vibration of trust, we are still masking it with the same lower brain survival synapses.
Here are six principles that will support the learning of a new kind of trust, both synaptically and spiritually...
The 6 Principles of Thriving Trust:
1) Am I willing to trust ‘life with opportunity’ and ‘myself with ability’
2) Am I willing to trust ‘life with my health’ and ‘myself with a healthy lifestyle’
3) Am I willing to trust ‘life with abundance’ and ‘myself with inspired actions’
4) Am I willing to trust ‘life with my path’ and ‘myself with how I walk it’
5) Am I willing to trust ‘life with souls to love’ and ‘myself with loving me’
6) Am I willing to trust ‘life with its mysteries’ and ‘myself with my mastery’
I’ll write about each one of the principles in upcoming blogs! Stay tuned…
Celebrating a thriving kind of trust,