Communicating well is a great way to boost your business and your self esteem, if you know you can handle social situations with ease and grace, promoting yourself or your product, an interview for the position you really want is just so simple. Talking to the Bank Manager for a loan is a breeze and even asking that great person out that you have fancied for ages, all easy peasey! Yeah… if only most people say.
Communication is probably one of the greatest tools you have as a human being, it sets you apart from all the other species. So, why is it so hard to do it well? There are many theories and thousands of books have been written on this subject, but poor communication is usually a symptom of something else.
Getting embarrassed, fluffing your words, hot sweats, weak knees, feeling sick, forgetting what you are talking about mid sentence, are all ways that your mind tries to keep you in a safe place, as the person you know you are. Usually you learn to believe through past experiences that you do not communicate well, you hold yourself back from being open and carefree with language. This is usually because you are suffering from a form of low self esteem.
If I speak out and get noticed how will I handle it? If I present myself well and get the promotion, how will I manage the staff? If I talk to them and get a date, what would I talk about? Then you panic internally and mess it up, just so that you will not have to deal with what might happen afterwards. It is a type of internal protector that you have developed; unfortunately this is all too common and causes too many people, too much anxiety for too long in their lives.
Learning to communicate well and with confidence makes you stand physically taller, hold your head higher and look people in the eye. Just in the way you look and stand you are communicating to others that I am in control, I know my own worth and I appreciate being me. In short, you boost your self esteem
It is very true, and vitally important in today’s communication frenzied world, first you must love yourself and it is all to easy to forget. If you do not expect yourself to do well, why would anyone else? Henry Ford said, “If you think you can, or if you think you can’t – you are probably right”
Everything you do, say, believe or how you behave is a choice, your choice. If your communication is not enhancing your business or your life, then it is time to change it, make a choice for a better you and your better future.