Keep on going and the chances are you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I have never heard of anyone stumbling on something sitting down. - Charles Kettering - 1876-1958, Inventor
A little over 5 years ago, I thought a lot about how in the next 5 - 7 years I wanted to retire from the bank. I knew that I wanted to work for myself, as I was way past tired of being an employee for someone else. But that was really as far I as I got, as to what I wanted to be when I grew up.
I attended a meeting with this group that was working with various groups in Africa to help sell their products and produce a viable income for the women who were making the products. It was called HUB or Humanity Unites Brilliance. While attending their meeting I met a filmmaker and pre-bought a video he had made about Law of Attraction and heard a speaker for what was then known as Rejuvenate and is now know as Thrive Academy. He was giving out scholarships for a three day program and I attended the program.
Thrive's founder, Jesse Koren had all of these workshops that he was selling throughout the weekend. They were basically designed for Holistic Practitioners and were about being a speaker, and leading workshops, and how to increase their business with heart selling their packages, and owning the value of their work.
Now I wasn't a Holistic Practitioner, but I figured that most of what he was teaching would be helpful to know for when I did figure out what I wanted to do when I retired. So I signed up for all of his programs and met some wonderful people, and learned a lot about having my own business.
What I was doing back then was stumbling around, and while I didn't really know how what I was learning was going to be implemented in my life, I knew that I was being directed. Then about 6 months into the program, my nephew was killed. Fast forward two years later and the nonprofit my sister created after losing her son to random gang violence failed. It was at that moment, that I first had an inkling of what I was going to do when I retired.
More coaching, training and seminars, and three years later, I now understand the journey that I have been on. Each day brings me closer to launching Lemonademakers website, and getting the programs for helping the small nonprofits that are part of all of our communities out there to help them be more successful.
It felt like I was stumbling around, but in truth I was being directed. The divine knew all along what I was going to be doing, and was putting me in touch with all of the necessary knowledge and connections that I would need to make it happen. The divine knew, and my inner being knew what was coming, even if I wasn't consciously aware of it when it all started. Did you see Tomb Raider? There was a clock in a closet that began ticking on her birthday and that ticking clock started the sequences of events that led her on an amazing journey. Taking that first class with Jesse Koren was my ticking clock that started the amazing journey that I am on now.
My true purpose for being here wasn't something that I could find "out there". It was inside of me all along. It nudged me into some amazing classes. It introduced me to some amazing people. The mixture of both of those things, is what opened me up to see what that purpose was. I can honestly say that the most important thing I learned was that we all need coaching of some kind, if we are going to live our lives on purpose. The reason being is that we can't see our own blind spots. A good coach doesn't provide us with answers, but rather asks the right questions, so that we can go deep within and pull out the right answers. That is really what I love about this quote from Tony Robbins - the right questions that we need to be asking ourselves and looking deep within to draw out the answers.
Of course the most important thing was that I kept stumbling along. I didn't sit down and wait for something to come to me. I kept going day after day, month after month down that road, staying alert to where Destiny was leading me. I was talking to my sister from another mother last night about this - staying in the flow of life. I told her that I didn't feel that I ever went off course, or took a detour. It felt more like an eddy in the river, where I had to stay still for a short while and was able to collect something that I was going to need further downstream.
So that is my advice for everyone I know. Keep walking/stumbling down the road. Find excellent coaches that ask the deep questions, so that you keep stumbling on the right things you need to keep you on purpose. Stay in the flow, knowing that sometimes you land in an eddy for a short while. Be patient and stay alert for when it is time to push back out into the main flow of the river. Consciously make the decision about who you are becoming.
My goal since my discovering Lemonademakers is to become who I need to be in order to make Lemonademakers as successful as possible. Because every nonprofit that I can help to be successful, means that they get to help their local community. And that to me is what real success is all about - not money, not a fancy car, not a fancy home. Success is helping nonprofits help their local community.