So much of our "BE- blossoming' discussions prompt further insights for me on focus. The etymology behind certain words is so fascinating to me - the word “decision” being a favorite.
The Latin of the word decision literally means, “to cut off”, (words like suicide, homicide, genocide, pesticide). Making a decision is about “cutting off” choices – cutting us off from some other 'option'. The Paradox of Choice - Why More Is Less is a 2004 book by psychologist Barry Schwartz that I had read a synopsis of at that time. And for almost a decade I would not use the words 'decide ' or 'decision' because it sounded so severe and limiting. What I have discovered recently is... it's not...it’s liberating!
Having many choices seems great, however at some point, if we’re going to get to where we want to go, and if we’re going to create what we are called to create, then we need to make some decisions. Literally 'cut off' other options and decide on a course of action.
In fact, making a decision frees you from the shackles and confusion of endless choices that keep you distracted with 'busyness' and second guessing yourself.
I have had many discussions on commitment and focus with Resonate members, S-Team members and family members. We resist the idea of focus. It’s easier to entertain a list of five, ten, twenty cool ideas than to do the hard work of 'deciding' which one or two deserve our undivided attention, our true focus. Just look at our email subscriptions.
I do understand why that process is so difficult for us. I’ve been observing the effects of what I have heard some call "SOS - Shiny Object Syndrome”. By deciding to focus on only one or two of our priority projects, we think we’ve “killed” our many options of bright and shiny ideas. We think or feel like we’ve given up precious flexibility and the plethora of options out there and may miss out.
Even in a world of abundance, we have limited cognitive ability. Each individual, each organization can only handle so many tasks, objectives or strategies. We trade off focus for flexibility. Of course, with flexibility comes the never ending juggling of projects, priorities and tasks and the reduced likelihood of accomplishing any of them.
And let's be real...there's the fear if we actually focus on something and we fail it may be a little too painful. Because it's easier to swallow failure when we didn't give it our all or make it a priority.
When we focus, we can create so much more, both individually and collaboratively and have the satisfaction of bringing to fruition on planet earth that which we wish to see in our world.
My focus right now is gathering women to experience ease and alignment with their purpose.
Etymology is the history of words, their origins, and how their form and meaning have changed over time.