"You have to teach your heart and mind how to sing together..., then you'll hear the sound of your soul." Renee Carlino, Sweet Thing
When we don't live a heart centered life, we are living outside of ourselves in exile. We are born into a heart centered place. Sometimes we need to go back into the negative experiences of our lives and excise out the pain. We can do this by reexamining the experience itself, so that we can go back into the harmony that we were born into.
The mind tends to be the voice of fear speaking, listing everything that could go wrong. It speaks from logic and is trying to protect us, based on its interpretations of the past. Listening to heart is something that gets us out of our head and into our inner core. The heart voice pierces through to this inner core where the soul exists. That is the place of harmony of the heart and mind. This heart voice whispers to us in a soft voice, and we need to listen with concentration and focus. It is the voice that takes us home, but we can only stay there when the heart and mind are singing together.
The trick is to combine them together into a harmonious blend. That is for me where writing comes in. Confucius says "words are the voice of the heart". If you sit down to write, it is best to let go of any preconceptions, and just let the words flow out of the heart. See what is wanting to come out, with no judgments, with no editing from the mind. Writing for me is a healing process.
Writing clears out whatever negative emotion is showing up. It heals. In writing that pain onto the page, you find that you are given a gift. It lessens the pain and makes it bearable.
To me it is an alchemical process, turning the millstone of pain around your heart into a light gold chain. It becomes a spiritual process of finding the gold in the experience. As I write the words it bleeds the pain that my mind is telling me I am experiencing out on the page. Like lancing a wound, I can draw all the poison out, and then move back into a healing space with the love from my heart. To look at what the learning was from this experience.
Writing starts out just expressing the negative irrational feelings that I have. I think that part of it is that as I write it out, I am not being influenced by the reaction of whomever might be listening. I can explore it, not worried about someone else's judgment of the experience.
It is also a way to re-experience the event. In your mind feel the temperature of the room, see the lights, smell the scents, hear the other sounds. Create the space to look at the event outside of the emotions. To see if my interpretation of the event was accurate. If I expect that something bad is going to be said or done, my defenses go up and my minds filters are keyed to defense. This means that I miss the auditory and visual clues that are happening. When I write about it and go back into this kind of detail. It helps me pick up a lot more information about what was actually said. It recreates the space and energetic vibration it came from. From this place, I can process how I might have misinterpreted something. I can see my potential overreactions to what was said or done.
Words help me get to the actual feelings that need to be expressed. This to me is a vital part of listening to the heart and mind together. It is an emotional communication. The words help me go back in time and open up the moment and see into the life of the thing that happened. It is how the positive things I missed get exposed. The lesson can then be taken deep into the heart. In the heart, it births something positive into the negative experience. It becomes how my heart and mind can sing together.
When I do this, then the mind gets to see the benefits of the experience. If I block the new experience, it is stunting my growth. I would be like a root bound plant in a pot that I had grown out of.
We can reason with the mind from this place of emotions. We can let it know that it isn't wrong for wanting to protect us, and that we are thankful for that protection. The mind just needs to hear what the heart is saying. Instead of building a cage that hold me back, it can allow a bigger container to grow in.