Even a mistake may turn out to be the one thing necessary to a worthwhile achievement.- Henry Ford - 1863-1947, Industrialist
When I look back on my life I remember one mistake that I was so ashamed of making when I was a freshman in high school. We had moved to Santa Cruz the end of 8th grade. So when I started high school I didn't have any friends. We moved so much when I was young and my only excuse was that I wanted to have friends so bad, that I acted badly.
I was invited to a slumber party and was so excited. As the evening got later and later, some of the other girls started falling asleep. What happened is that the girls who had invited me, would say horrible things about whoever fell asleep. Wanting to be part of the crowd I said horrible things about the other new girl. Afterwards I felt so ashamed that I pretended to fall asleep too. I heard every word that the mean girls said about me and I was crushed. As soon as everyone was asleep I walked about three miles home crying the entire way.
I learned a lot about myself that night. I learned that following the crowd to fit in, never works. I learned that having the courage to confess to the other new girl what I had done, and asking for her forgiveness, gave me a wonderful best friend all through high school. I learned that mean girls are never true friends.
Life can reveal some things about us that we may not want to see or acknowledge. We all have faults and we don't like to see the cracks, dents and ugly places inside of us exposed. When we shine the light of awareness into those dark places, we befriend those shadows.
Most of our shadows were some aspect that we disowned when we were small children. We usually misunderstood someone's comments, or we were misunderstood. We thought our light was too bright, so we buried it so that no one would ever see it again. Or we named it bad and so it became a shadow. The shadow seeks to keep us safe behind a wall. It causes us to either push people away so that they can't get too close, or we alienate them entirely.
We can look at each of these shadows as teachers. They are friends who are trying to help us. We can then take what seems like a mistake, and transform it into a positive attribute. The boundaries we have placed upon ourselves are imaginary. There is nothing that we can't achieve. We are in fact limitless creatures to whom anything can be possible.
In taking this transformation to heart, we can take the next path and go further than we ever dreamed was possible. Every mistake looked through this window, forces us to see the world in a different way. We don't change reality by fighting it. We can change it by making something new within ourselves. This happens because we didn't run from the shadow. Instead we shine a light on them. We see that every mistake that we transform in this way, allows us to be more awake, more conscious.
So take the path of new beginnings. Make this decision consciously, carefully, and powerfully. Make new friends!