"Anything forced into manifestation through personal will is always "ill gotten", Florence Scovel Shinn
I have felt for a number of years, that anytime I am trying to force something into happening, it is usually the divine saying either "no", or "not yet". The writer of the book I was reading talked about this quote in relation to how some of us are great manifestors. I believe that when you are living a sacred life, that you will always get what you need. What she was quoting this writer about though, was when we want something so bad that we in essence steal it away from someone. When we don't take the "no" as the answer and keep rooting around the find a way to get it, we end up with something that has instant Karma on it. It costs us a great deal in time, money, relationships, reputation, etc...., to make it go away.
Living in that sacred manner doesn't mean that you always get what you want - as "want" is not the same as a need. You need food to live, but you don't need to have steak and lobster every night. It may be that you have fallen in love with that pair of new shoes that costs way too much, but you don't really need them, when you already have several pairs (or for some of us, several dozen pairs) of shoes in the closet. If you force that pair of shoes into your closet, that will be the pair that you trip in and sprain an ankle or wear once and never again because they hurt so much to wear - and then the money that you used - which was supposed to be only for emergencies is gone and the financial emergency that happened the following week created a lot of stress as you begged your family and friends for money to help you out of your predicament.
I read in a book recently the thought that rejection and competition are a mirage. Sit with this sentence for a moment and see where the mind takes you. Both of these words are rooted in "not enough" which is also tied to the previous thought of trying to force things into our life through personal will.
If there really is more than enough in the universe, then it is easy to accept that competition is a mirage. But how many times do we "buy the lie" that we are not enough? Not skinny enough, not rich enough, not smart enough, not pretty or beautiful enough....., whatever it was that we felt rejected for. Oprah did an interview last year with Meryl Streep and they talked about how when she was first starting out she interviewed for a part in King Kong with Dino De Laurentiis and how he rejected her because she wasn't beautiful enough for the part - he actually said, "Why do you send me this pig. This woman, she's so ugly."
Now imagine that he said that to you. A brutal piece of rejection, yet she told Oprah, that he was right in that this wasn't a good part for her. This "rejection" was in fact the universe saying, this isn't a part that you need - we have something better for you to do. And the wondrous thing was that she recognized the truth of it. It didn't become a stumbling block for her. She didn't leave the industry because of it. She licked her wounds and went on to become one of the greatest actresses of all times (at least in my opinion).
Mirages are like that - they look like one thing, yet when you closely examine them, they disappear. How many mirages became the mountain that you tried to climb and then gave up on and walked away? How many times have you cried and yelled and screamed at life, the unfairness of a decision; the rejection of something or someone? But now with some distance, you look back at the occasion and "thank God for unanswered prayers"?
How much stress could we take out of our daily lives, if we quit trying to force what we want to happen, to happen? If we listened to the source deep within, whispering to us, that said "wait, not yet" or "I have something so much better coming just around the corner". Think about the peace and ease that would enter into our life, if we didn't just say that we believe that the divine is guiding us, but actually lived life from deep inside of our souls.
Let every aspect of my life's journey unfold in harmony,
My life is unfolding in ease and grace.
Let divine essence reveal to me every detail in divine timing,
Divine timing assures me that everything I need is already here waiting to be revealed.
Let me be grateful for all of the blessings I have in my life,
It is my life I am living, I don't waste my life wanting the mirage of what I think you have.
Let me listen to the vision as it unfolds my destiny,
My destiny unfolds in harmony, ease and grace.
And so it is.