Ok, here we go: There is someone that I want to like me, show me attention, love me, be happy when they see me. I find it painful, having the thought, "I want them to like me, and they don't". 1st thing: Do I know they don't? NO.
With the thought, I ask questions in my mind, 'Does that gesture from them, mean they dislike me, or do they give that gesture to everyone?' (My mind gives space to these wonderings that do not serve me.)
My life would be more loving and real, without that thought. I would spend more time loving and liking them w/o that thought. I would spend more time unconditionally liking them....
I imagine looking into their eyes now. What do I see? fear, longing for connection & to be liked and loved, a young person and so innocent just wanting to fit in. I see the Universe's tender creation. No mistakes. All perfection. I see warmth, love, and love for me. I'm taking a haaaahhhh breath now, as I release or unravel the hook, this thought.
Turning the thought around (I'm doing The Work of Byron Katie, by the way):
I want to like this person. Yes, however, I want to love them more than fully like them. Feeling into my heart to feel the love. It feels the BEST. Warm fuzzies happening now.
They do like me. They probably like some things about me.
I don't like them. There are some things about them, I can do without. That's true.
I don't want them to like me. I want them to do what they want. If there are things about me that they could live without, we're the same.
I don't want to like them. There are some things I can accept - that I don't like everything...and I can now focus on what I do. I can make a list for myself.
I look forward to them doing something that hooks me, so that I can go to my heart space again and feel unconditional love, peace, freedom, and joy.
Love us, susan