So I have been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now but I have known him for around 10 years.
We recently went through much of an ordeal centered around the fact that I found text messages on his phone (by mistake I should add) where he was being very VERY flirtatious with another girl (to put it lightly).
After having confronted him about it etc, he apologized profusely saying that it was a horrible mistake and that it wouldnt happen again. By all accounts, it has not. I ask him from time to time how things are going with his text messaging and he says that he hasnt spoken to the girl since etc.
But my problem is that I am now struggling with trusting him again. I sometimes catch myself wanting to see what is on his phone seeking some sort of assurance and I hate feeling that way because I have always been one to advocate for giving people their privacy and trusting etc.
But I am unsure how to go about trusting him again because I am not sure if he really will not do it again or if he would just hide it better. And I don't know how to protect myself from going through that pain.
What should I do?
And how exactly do you re-build trust in a relationship?