Perhaps you are like me "a people pleaser "and you have been told that this is negative, your a push over, or told to stop trying to please people. Well I have a different point of view of this title of “People pleaser", I love to please people, I enjoy being pleasant, treating life kindly even going that extra mile for someone.
YES I love to be a people pleaser because I feel good when I lead with kindness. Now that does not mean that I am a door mat or I put people before me nor do I seek approval. I practice my life with the end in mind( actually with the end in my heart.) If my intention is not to pleasant, to upset people, be a jerk, to be right I look at that and breathe, I have even stopped asking why just that my intention is to stay kind, kind to myself and the other person without the expectation of them receiving my kindness.
I ask how can I be kind in this moment and sometimes the answer is, to be quiet, go for a walk, dance, and I sit then breathe and sense into this.
Sometimes I feel this situation does not deserve my kindness and I sense into what emotion is there for me to experience and I watch it, speak with it, find where it is in my body and I treat myself with tenderness while I observe that judging voice that tells me, “see your stuck again, I knew it, who do you think you are”,and I show tenderness to that voice as well. I no longer engage in conversation with my own thoughts. I DYBO, I do Ho’oponopono, I listen.
Imagine if we all decided to be kind, to be pleasing and bring our Deepest Self to each situation letting go of the wrongness of choosing to be pleasing.
I am now choosing to be pleasing, to show up as my Deepest Self allowing that energy to lead the way with me.
What energy/vibration will you lead with?