Hello Divas I trust you are well...I want to share some of my good news.
As some of you know, I am in the mist of some major life transitions - and this last step I was working through was putting our house up for sale...
Well it all worked out - the house officially went on the market last Wednesday, and it sold this evening - good news, but the better news is the lessons in all of this.
You see my former husband and I decided that the selling of the house had to be for the highest good of all - ourselves, our son that is still at home, the potential buyers and the real estate agents involved - everyone had to come out a winner...this was not necessarily going to be easy.
So we started by getting the house ready and de-cluttered as described in my last blog and then we actually put it up for sale. Phew, step one was done!
Long story short - we received an offer on our home last night - not quite what we had originally expected yet still a good offer. What were we to do, because my ex and I, we were seeing things slightly different on this one? Hmmm
Thoughts that were running through our minds were: - are we in lack mentality therefore that is why we are tempted to settle for the first offer - being in fear that we shouldn't counter offer and ask for more?
- is either one of us experiencing worthiness issues?
And I also felt it ran even deeper than that - was I feeling guilty of past times where I jumped into a business deal thinking it would give a good result and we would be further ahead... only to be bitten in the proverbial butt... and now I was not trusting self???
Then I realized that this was where we as a former couple needed to come together and end things cleanly... We both needed to communicate at a deep level... to communicate authentically what was important to each of us and to come up with a decision where it was agreed upon by both... where each could feel really good. This was not about one person giving in and not feeling right. And not to mention that we were each carrying a certain baggage re: financial experiences.
This was in fact a moment that you could call a crisis of trust and an opportunity to heal. We needed to forget about past "errors" and to only tune in energetically to what was at stake NOW.
Deep breathing ...and we each agreed to turn within, and tap into our core, our Essence and set the intention to clearly hear advice our agent was giving us... "Essence, guide us to hear clearly hear what is being said.", and then to both express what we feel we needed; next to come up with the mutual consensus, and then finally set forth together a strong intention for what was desired.
We did all that and we were able to agree upon and make a counter offer that we both felt was fair for all.
Two hours later, the counter offer had been made and accepted... and the three of us: the real estate agent, former hubby and I were each raising our glass of wine - toasting the ease and grace in which the deal had come about and toasting the moving forward towards the next step... each finding our own new space.
Sitting here writing, I am truly grateful for the ways in which things have unfolded!
One step at a time, and taking action only when it feels right, taking inspired action... trusting that the next stepping stone will be there...trusting the process... has worked out beautifully.
Intending the best and expecting the best goes a long way. N.B. At first the result may not always feel or look like the best result for you.Trust anyway.
Taking the time to really hear the other person through is a HUGE step in resolving and preventing potential conflict.
Turning within, and trusting your intuition is essential to taking right action and to co-creating effectively.We had been intending consistently around this house issue for a couple of months.
Thank you for allowing me to journey with you.
Cheers to manifesting more Joy, Success and Abundance! Lynette
I came across a passage today that was written in 1910 - almost one hundred years ago...
"Do not try to make men of your boys or women of your girls. It is not natural. Love them. Make home just as happy a place as possible, and give them rein, freedom. Encourage them in their play, for the are now in their fun age. Many parents ruin the larger, completer, fuller development of their children by repressing them, destroying their childhood, their play day, by trying to make them adults. There is nothing sadder in American life than the child who has been robbed of its childhood. " Orison Swett Marden
Depending on your perspective... you could say this passage is even truer today; children are in many ways required to grow up faster and they experience the worries and the issues of older teens at a younger and younger age.
As BraveHeart Women, we know we can have much influence, and we can shape in a positive and enlightened way the children of today, and in turn create a much better tomorrow for all.
In your opinion, what do you think are the 3 most important qualities or attitudes a parent should cultivate and nurture with their children in the 21st century?
I for one believe we must transmit to our children the idea that they are loved - acceptance, approval, and unconditional love are so important to their self esteem.
Communication - open, caring dialogue is a skill that will serve each child and parent very well over the course of their relationship.
And a knowledge of thoughts ... how our thoughts affect all of our days.
The list goes on... Looking forward to hearing what You believe is important to instill in our children today, in order to have a peaceful, loving world where each can make her or his own valuable contribution.
Cheers to manifesting more Joy, Success and Abundance!
Track and field athletes who try jumping hurdles too early, in a hurdle race... know all too well how ineffective that is and how painful that can feel if by starting their jump to early they do not clear the hurdle.
Yet, how many of us try to jump hurdles to early in our own life?
You are one of those early jumpers if you worry and try to resolve imagined problems before they arise.
I was reminded of this life lesson over the last couple of weeks as I have been getting our house ready to sell. Well intentioned friends keep asking if I know where I will be living next.
My answer much to their surprise has been: No ... and I will start to think about it once I know when I need to be out of my home.
I trust that I will feel inspired to search for my new refuge when the time is right, and that by looking at possibilities when I am inspired... that the process will unfold with ease and grace... just like getting our home ready for sale was.
Now, this attitude is definitely part of the newer Lynette - I could not of been in such an anchored and peaceful place even a few short years ago - because back then I had not learned to turn within yet. I did not trust myself enough... I was still in the mode of thinking others knew more than I did about what was right for me. And back then their questions would have created doubt about being able to find a place in time which met all of my criteria.
I will keep you posted about waiting till I get to the hurdle - if there is one - before choosing how to jump.
Cheers to manifesting more Joy, Success and Abundance.
I finally emerged from 10 days of physically, emotionally letting go...
Had you told me 10 days ago, that within my busy work schedule I would manage to sort out a home - every closet, drawer, filing cabinet drawer, kitchen cupboard of all that was no long serving its occupants and... paint and redo bathrooms, all in order to put up my home for sale - I would of not believed it... it was inspired action in a physical way. It actually got done with ease and grace ... albeit a few sore muscles that I forgot I even had
Yes, there were moments where tears flowed quietly and softly - but it was all good - I had a knowing that even that was part of the letting go of the so called release and cleansing.
Through it all I was reminded of Joseph Newton's beautiful words - "The Principle of Emptiness."
I was able to observe many lessons in the process - Getting in the habit of keeping things that we no longer use or that are no longer useful give two messages to our brain - messages we do not want our brain to imprint in our cells. Number 1 - You cannot trust tomorrow , because if you give away you might actually experience lack. Number 2 - You are not worthy of something better, more beautiful and new.
Everything on this physical plane carries with it an energy. Hmm....
You must actually make room - to have an empty space within and without to experience more - to have better - and to go forward. According to Joseph- it is the force of the emptiness that will attract to us what we are desiring.
Frequently with the objects there are memories stored - some are good some not so much... it is not so much the objects that stagnate our life but the attitude of keeping, keeping which includes keeping old hurts, and any resentments that are kept. Old feelings keep out new opportunities.
Goods like money must circulate. You do not need to have a garage sale - simply give away what can be used by someone else.
So now that the clearing has been done and the cleaning has occurred (yes, I even had to let go of the dust in the corners )... I feel renewed - I feel I have space within for creativity to move in and for more empowering thoughts and ideas. I am excited at the possibilities that lay ahead as I embark on my New Year today - the letting go ended up being a wonderful birthday gift to myself.
You do not have to wait for a New Year or for an actual move to another home... Simply start with one small corner or space.
What can you choose to let go of today?Dare To Be Bold!
Cheers to manifesting more Joy, Success and Abundance
With love, your BH sister and Ritual Diva, Lynette
I must admit it has been a most interesting week - I felt most emotions and although productive strides forward were made, I also had two 15 melts downs ( that is food for another blog - )
Through it all I had an important AHA moment - most of you probably know this one already - but just in case you don't, I thought I would share. It might actually reassure you.
When it comes to purpose and passion - we often feel the fire burning within - we feel compelled to take action and yet we can also feel uneasy and scared. So I started asking myself what that was all about?
Reality is that when you are on purpose and following your passion - you are always on the edge. You always have to be present to what it is you need to learn, do and move toward in order to serve the purpose.
Following your purpose and passion is very different than following what we are good at, what we are expected to do or what we are told we should do.
When following your purpose and passion, the Universe delivers the inspired action usually one step at a time. Where as when we follow tradition or a well known career path - we can see many steps laid out before us at once.
Being anchored into the present moment, and receiving guidance one step at a time requires that we have greater faith and develop our trust in the Universe and trust in ourselves muscles.
Realizing your destiny is not linear. It is very dynamic. Many of the BraveHeart women are following paths for which there are no or few role models yet. These women will be the role models for many others to follow.
And as if requiring faith and trust was not enough - the next step is frequently completely illogical - :that is illogical to the safe, the secure and the status quo.
It also means that we need to cultivate our courage.
Who ever coined the phrase: "Need to be living by insight rather than by eyesight" was right. However our western culture did not raise us to be skilled at this method, and therefore following our passion, our purpose and destiny can push our buttons labeled Uneasy and Scared.
The question we then need to answer is: "How do we cultivate the faith to move forward, when in fact we can intuit and see only the next step?"
Oh yes, and having faith is a choice.
Back to connecting within and asking "Essence, for my highest good and the good of all what does life want of me?"
Thank You to you, my BraveHeart sisters, for the courage you show in your blog posts and your communities. They inspire me to keep moving forward and to follow my purpose and passion.
Cheers to manifesting more Joy, Success and Abundance!
Masterminding is one of my most effective rituals!
It allows me to shorten my learning curve... save time, money and energy; and it leaves me feeling inspired and energized to go forward.
I invite you to check this short video out - if it resonates with you, then you may want to connect to the Ritual Divas Community for the full version.
May you have a truly magical start to your week.
Cheers to creating more Joy, Success and Abundance!
Your Ritual Diva,
Lynette
Ritual Divas Community
Once again, as I view the day's blog posts I am in awe of the beauty and creativity within this women's community.
Check out Claudia's amazing videoMore than you know and you will know exactly what I mean.
The feminine and creative energies are starting to rise in many areas of the world and it is our duty to express our own creative energy.
The world is calling out to us to be creative and not take the road of imitation.That means we are each being called to be creative in our own unique way and attain through that creativity practical results that enhance our life and the life of others.
Like other muscles if we do not use our creativity muscles we will lose them.
How BraveHeart Sisters are you choosing to use your creativity muscles?
And do not tell me that you cannot be creative - because if someone like myself who has spent most of her adult life using the left side of her brain, and if the truth be known... suffered from a little bit of "intellectual constipation" can actually open up, and start to tune in, tap in and turn on to the creativity juices then so can You!
Thank You and Hugs to the women who are sharing their creativity with us here in this forum, and by doing so allow the rest of us to do the same.
Cheers to creating more Joy, Success and Abundance!
Often we will hear people say such comments as "I am unemployed, I am stuck, I have no money... and so on." Heck ,we may have each said those words at one time or another!
We know that ladies are not making these things up - it is their truth. However, even within the obvious negative circumstances, something can be done.
You see money does not define who you are. Money (or lack of it) and your level of affluence does not define your character, nor your intelligence, nor your skills and abilities.
Even in the face of negative circumstances we can choose to do something. And often it is in the doing that our value is recognized and that the door of Opportunity is opened!
DO SOMETHING...might just look like:
- offering your babysitting services to another sister so she can go and get something done for her family;
- like reading for an elderly person who can no longer read for themselves;
- volunteering to spend time with kids in a hospital who parents cannot be with them;
- choosing to help a neighbor get their groceries;
and so on and so forth. I am sure you can come up with a hundred plus ways to render service in your community.
I am willing to bet any one of us would only need to do this a few times before the door of Opportunity would open - even if only slightly at first.
You see, if we connect to the Divine within, we will receive answers and be guided to take inspired right actions that will lead us on the path out of our current situation.
Over the years, when looking at people who had connected with their divine purpose and achieved true success...I have often wondered about the extremely low points some of them have had to endure while on their journey...
And low and behold the answer came to me this weekend. I have over the last few days really understood at a visceral level the value of their hardships.
When our back is against the wall and there are no real options - we will either choose to stay stuck in the "crap" (simply a technical term) and use it as an excuse not to go forward OR the crap will be the impetus to finally take a stand for ourselves and move in a new direction.
If we were to always feel ok and not experience the so called hardship, human nature being what it is - we would probably choose to remain comfortable and not take inspired action which leads us to expressing our true gifts and our unique voice.
This weekend I have felt a new level of gratitude for the uncomfortable moments in my life - and I now unerstand at a deeper level the concept of "Divine timing."
Divine timing and Source energy knew that it was in my best interest not to experience the financial abundance and the choices when I wanted them - when my Ego wanted them , because having the abundance before connecting with my passion and expressing my true gifts, would of meant I didn't really have to work at becoming all I was meant to be - because I would of been very comfortable.
Now I am not saying you have to wait to be hit by a bus before taking action - that is not the case. Any time you have an awareness you can choose to make a different choice and realign with your inner self.
But what I am saying is that to the extent we feel the uncomfortableness of our situation and current circumstances - to the extent that we are not well with the way things are - we will launch inside of us either a small or a large rocket of desire.That desire can be all the internal motivation we need to bring about change.
Again a reminder that everything serves us, and we need to embrace it all, even if it at first glance the appearances would have us believe that there is no hope - that we are stuck.
Cheers to creating more Joy, Success and Abundance.
Good evening Divas... want to take a moment to share my AHA of the day
You know how we often hear that within us lies our greatness - that we each have the qualities needed within ourselves to live the life we desire and to experience Joy, Success and Abundance ...
Well today I came across the perfect analogy - a seed - in particular the seed of an oak tree...
IF you had such a seed in front of you, you could manage to crack it open, and within it you would find the potential for an oak tree but you would not find an oak plank.
In other words that seed needs to be planted in fertile soil, to be nurtured, to be watered and then it can grow into a mature oak tree. From there we can harvest an oak plank.
We humans are no different - within us lies the seed of potential - the potential to be all that we desire and can be. However, just like the oak seed, we need to put ourselves in a fertile environment... to be nurtured and watered... in order to grow our potential and yield the results of our purpose and passion.
Here are some questions for us to ponder this weekend...
What does our current environment feel like? How can we make it more fertile and suited to our growth porcess?
Do we need to replant the seed of our purpose and dreams in better thoughts, and more empowering beliefs?
How are we currently nurturing and watering our purpose and passion?
Cheers to creating more Joy, Success and Abundance
Synchronicities happen in the most unexpected ways...
About an hour ago the phone rang and much to my delight it was my 25 year old son calling me from Montreal .. one of those How are you and I love you Mom calls...
During the conversation he says, "Mom if you ever want to feel uplifted you need to hear this most beautiful piece of music and song Con Te Partero
After hanging up I went straight to You Tube Time to Say Goodbye and there I heard the grace and elegance he was so touched by ... then the light bulb went on
Tonight is the moment to say good-bye to my Formula To Manifest community as I have grown it, and move on with the new Ritual Divas Community
What is a Ritual Diva, and why did I choose this name although it is definitely beyond my comfort zone?
I have explained this in a short video that I did for you...
Once again, tonight I was warmed and lifted just by reading the blog posts and tapping into this wonderful community of like minded women...
It is truly a gift to be a part of a community where women encourage each other to grow, to blossom, and to stretch further in order to rendez-vous with their full potential.
The insights shared, the questions offered to nourish reflection, the inspiration communicated, and the practical tips revealed are all very much an important part of my day!
Whether I am being entertained, educated, or coached by simply participating in this forum...I feel blessed for being a part of this tribe, and full of enthusiasm for what is being built through the BraveHeart Vision.
Thank You Ellie, the Braveheart Team and to each of you my braveheart sistters.
Tonight back indoors, all warm and cozy after being outside in the Manitoba cold BRRRR... don't ask me how, but my thoughts turned to hot rocks.
Think of it.. if you were to see a woman holding on to a hot rock and she was screaming words like " My hand is burning.." Most likely, You would simply direct her to drop the rock. Although the pain might linger for a while, some RELIEF would be felt immediately.
Yet, how many of us continue to hold on to hot rocks - beliefs, thoughts, events, people, circumstances that are at best not serving us, and at worst are hurting us badly?
If you were to be real honest with yourself, is there a hot rock you are holding on to right now that you can simply drop?
Imagine... a shower of Relief washing over You!
Cheers to creating more Joy, Success and Abundance
Choosing to be an adventurer in consciousness rather than simply a tourist or spectator in life... means I do not delay or deny good coming into my life.
Yet, being human, I sometimes catch myself about to delay the good stuff from happening and coming to me because I hold the false belief that in order for things to change, I must wait for an external circumstance to change.
As I sit and put my life on hold, nothing changes.
Have you ever pressed the pause button?
Is so, when we push the play button once again the world we see and experience looks the same. There will have been no change in our daily experience, if there has not been a corresponding change in our level of consciousness and personal growth.
So let's be bold and step out of our comfort zones once again, and take the next step in our transformation.
I trust you are well...I want to share some of my good news. 
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)... I feel renewed - I feel I have space within for creativity to move in and for more empowering thoughts and ideas. I am excited at the possibilities that lay ahead as I embark on my New Year today - the letting go ended up being a wonderful birthday gift to myself. 
- we will either choose to stay stuck in the "crap" (simply a technical term) and use it as an excuse not to go forward OR the crap will be the impetus to finally take a stand for ourselves and move in a new direction. 
and we need to embrace it all, even if it at first glance the appearances would have us believe that there is no hope - that we are stuck. 
Most likely, You would simply direct her to drop the rock. Although the pain might linger for a while, some RELIEF would be felt immediately. 
